I've heard people say please wear something X colour. But saying you must have a whatever coloured suit is too much. 
I have a suit, that's what I'm wearing, end of for me.

Diluted Dante wrote:

Usually only if you're in the wedding party.

I am in the grooms party.

If by the groom's party you mean the couple of guys with a special function, rather than just invited by his side of the family, then the groom usually pays for those suits. Like the bride pays for the bridesmaids' dresses.

equinox_code wrote:

Diluted Dante wrote:

Usually only if you're in the wedding party.

I am in the grooms party.

Yes fairly standard when I was best man I got charged for suit hire when I got married I paid for everyone’s suit hire so who knows

But yes if your in the grooms party and everyone is wearing the same thing some one has to pay.

I have just Googled grooms party and unless there are some team sports involved I'm still not sure why we have to all look the same

If you are a groomsman, then yeah, that does happen, although generally people rent, not buy. Most weddings I've been to though the couple pay for attire if they are specifying.

I think it's shitty to expect someone to fork out for a suit because you want them to all look the same.

Looking forward to love thread update containing hijinks with bridesmaids, and so is everyone else.

The last wedding I went to all the grooms men wore what appeared to be very tight chinos with rolled up cuffs. Little ankle socks and braces over shirts with bow ties..

Fuck me in 20 years time you'd be able to date the photos by the outfits to within probably a month or two.

Looked interesting.

The other thing that annoys me about weddings now is no free bar.

There's often a bucket of beer bottles on arrival and when that's gone I've got to go to the bar and buy my own drinks?

We had a free bar at our wedding.

Bob wrote:

We had a free bar at our wedding.

Us too, if by "free" you mean "fucking expensive for the bride and groom".

Moot_Geeza wrote:

monkey wrote:

What colour suit do you have to wear?

I don't know yet

I’ve had a cheap wedding and an expensive one. Both were ace. People can do whatever they like, but I do get irritated when couples expect their friends/family to spend a lot on doing specific things – whether that’s outfits, travel, or overnight stays. There’s something quite selfish about things like, I dunno, stag nights overseas.

Is that what they're calling the overseas ones now?

Hadn't heard that a body has been found. That's very sad news.

Never go to a triad wedding. Certainly not as the groom.

LivDiv wrote:

Sorry to see the latest on this.
Awful news.

Thanks to you all. Appreciate the reaction to my initial message and subsequently.

Have some of his closest friends coming into school today for a counselling session. As they’re all now ex-students we still wanted to help as much as we can. Also going to a church vigil this evening where his family and friends will be, which is going to be extremely difficult. Around 10 of them had come back from uni so they could go to Reading so as to search for him and give out leaflets. This turn of events has been especially hard on them.

It’s an awful situation and has left me with a feeling of deep anger and frustration. I’m angry at friends who posted that a body had been found on social networks before any confirmation. I’m angry at the nationals quoting the tweets of his friends when he was missing. I’m angry at them also trying to get interviews with friends and family. I’m angry that Reading University had a lake on site without decent lighting. I’m angry at whatever ridiculous quirks of fate led to this tragic event.

Most of all, I’m angry that a guy who you would all have described as a thoroughly decent human being has been taken too soon. I’m fairly level headed and this anger and sadness will subside but I just feel heartache for the friends and family that will live with the repurcussions for the rest of their lives.

After one of my students committed suicide a few years back, I thought that was the worst thing you could experience in this job but the added tragedy of this just makes it far worse. It appears that this was just a horrible accident. After all that it’s probably trite to quote Ferris Bueller but it keeps jumping to the forefront of my mind. “Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Appeciate what you’ve got, let your loved ones know and be good to each other. You never know what crap is round the corner.

Have missed the place, will pop back very soon on a regular basis. Play nicely. Much love, Stoph.