Mate, stick on headphones and play stuff as loud as you want. Other people’s loud music is annoying at any time of day on any day of the week. Doing it the night after someone had to bang on your window is a dick move, regardless of the day of the week.

I would differ from the others, I think a note would be better. Going to a door can seem intimidating, even if it’s not intended.

Andy wrote:

Mate, stick on headphones and play stuff as loud as you want. Other people’s loud music is annoying at any time of day on any day of the week. Doing it the night after someone had to bang on your window is a dick move, regardless of the day of the week. I would differ from the others, I think a note would be better. Going to a door can seem intimidating, even if it’s not intended.

I mean, I'll have a reasonable level of volume in future, but I don't want to feel like I have to walk on egg shells in my own home. I went the headphones route last night, will do so again if it gets late.

I don't think it would seem intimidating if you are really apologetic and offer your number to call on should it ever happen again. A note can easily be misinterpreted.

Yossarian wrote:

The only thing I dislike about city life is having to always consider the people who share walls/floors/ceilings with you.

On the other hand, I was purposefully walking around loudly last night because I was getting pissed off with being the only person that ever puts the fucking bins out despite putting far less in than any other flat.

I'm about as intimidating as The Dude.

My stance is that I had it too loud for a weekday night, but there should be some flex on Friday / Saturday. I don't think that's unreasonable but wasn't planning on saying as such / confronting over the issue.

People have kids, people work nights, people work differing hours. It's easier to just not play loud music late.

Nick, how intimidating you think you are has nothing to do with how intimidating you appear to the person who has you on their doorstep. I know that you’re not planning to voice your stance, but the fact that it is your stance will bleed into how you appear to the other party.

To be honest, while I think a letter is a better idea, I’d also leave it a couple of days before sending it.

Kow wrote:

It's not reasonable to play music loud at any time of the day. Go and get a cottage in the country if that's what you want to do.

Headphones are cheaper than a cottage in the country. Unless it's a shit cottage and they're skert's headphones, naturally.

Just to point out: the majority of people value their time at the weekend more than their time during the week.

One of the problems is that it's very difficult to communicate what level of volume is being talked about.

AJ wrote:

One of the problems is that it's very difficult to communicate what level of volume is being talked about.

True, my guitar amp has 10 notches, and I rarely have it beyond the 2nd, but the difference between 2.5 and 2.8 is staggering.

I know right, missed opportunity.

If listening to music I enjoy, during the daytime, in my own home, at a level which you can dance to (without thumping the walls) is self-centred, then sure, I'm self centred, I guess.

Christ.

Also, I don't mind hearing someone playing music I like. So, literally, you may be wrong on that one.


I'm going to buy her an actual apology card and will post that, not worth the aggravation. I did post her a 'hello' card when I moved in actually, with some chocolates, to say 'hi there, I'm your new neighbour'. Never heard anything back.

Andy wrote:

bad_hair_day wrote:

If you can do home improvements, mow the lawn, use a pressure washer etc till 11pm you can play music Nick.

I really, really hope this is sarcasm.

It really, really isn’t.

nick_md wrote:

If listening to music I enjoy, during the daytime, in my own home, at a level which you can dance to (without thumping the walls) is self-centred, then sure, I'm self centred, I guess.

The difficulty is that you seemed to be presenting it as though you are listening it to a volume that is disturbing others. Which is self-centred. You’re argument is about being ‘in your own home’. Remember, your neighbours are in their own homes too.

nick_md wrote:

Also, I don't mind hearing someone playing music I like. So, literally, you may be wrong on that one.

I’m so happy for you, I could shit. Way to miss the point.


Live, the problem is that noisy neighbour issues have a massive impact on people’s general well-being, happiness, and general mental health. In all my years on the Police, amongst the most miserable I have seen are those with inconsiderate neighbours. Now, it’s possible that this isn’t one of those situations, but so far it looks and sounds a lot like one.