The last 48 hours. - The Bear and Badger

Moot_Geeza

I post quite regularly but I had absolutely no idea any of this was going on.Â I've never opened the mental health or technology threads before this evening.Â Anything else I could have added has already been said by various people in the last couple of pages, so I'll just offer a get well soon to Ellie.

google

What, gonzo?

ChattinWithChet

google wrote:

Bullshit. This is one of the friendliest, healthiest and most heart warming forums I've ever run into. From the childsplay thread to the various assistance many of us have received publicly or privately with all manner of personal topics. The fact that we're able to have a topic like this without it developing into a massive ego spat speaks volumes. There will be times when we step over the line. We may have a bad day and take It out on the forum. We may just not like someone. But very rarely do we see any real nastiness. If we're bringing real life into this, let's remember Andy is a policeman. He's no doubt been involved in assaults, potential threats on his life and other nastiness in service to his community. Do we suddenly forget that because he may or may not have said something inappropriate on a Thursday evening with his mates? My point is, this whole subject is not cool. Andy is a good bloke with a good heart. This forum had form for overly critical behaviour in the past so if someone stepped over the line today it's something we all need to take responsibility for.

You misunderstand. My point is in response to the idea that someone's consistency in being belligerent, argumentative or what have you is not a plus in the column when it comes to an instance like this. It does not make it more excusable. I do not know Andy, but he has taken enough exception to people that I do know - in a similar condescending tone - as of recently for me to not be surprised that someone was maybe a bit upset. If you insist on talking to people like that, don't be fucking surprised if it becomes a problem.

google

Shall I stop talking about people as though they're not here?

ChattinWithChet

I don't understand why you'd be worried about hurt feelings. This is all in good humour.

equinox_code

I don't really like calling people by their first names, but if truth-girl girlfriend girl is going to stick around, then I suspect (although i might be totally wrong!) in light of this thread she won't want preferential treatment because of whatever else is going on in her life. If anything, hopefully this thread serves as a small reminder that nothing's personal here. Or at least I hope it's not. That's the way i tend to interpret stuff when people get bitchy.

google

ChattinWithChet wrote:

I don't understand why you'd be worried about hurt feelings. This is all in good humour.

Not sure why you're being a dick with me, chet. What have I done that's upset you?

ChattinWithChet

Nothing you've done Google, I just think you're downplaying this as some chummy arsery when it's a little more than that.

google

You want my honest opinion?

This whole thing smells incredibly self serving and it's splitting a community. I don't like it one bit.

equinox_code

The more we talk about this, the bigger deal it becomes? The bigger deal it becomes, the worse it gets?

mk64

Go to bed everyone. In the uk anyway

ChattinWithChet

Gonzo wrote:

andy's quick to anger, but honestly, he probably expressed something we all thought. I also thought "drama queen", in the corner of my mind. Erm, having said that, what did he post?

To think things about a person and immediately feel that you 1) have an immediate need to communicate this to the person and 2) that the person should not only not be angry, but be happy that you are taking time out to put them straight is not really honesty. It swings between being rude and cruel, hopefully hitting funny along the way.

google

ChattinWithChet wrote:

Gonzo wrote:

andy's quick to anger, but honestly, he probably expressed something we all thought. I also thought "drama queen", in the corner of my omind. Erm, having said that, what did he post?

To think things about a person and immediately feel that you 1) have an immediate need to communicate this to the person and 2) that the person should not only not be angry, but be happy that you are taking time out to put them straight is not really honesty. It swings between being rude and cruel, hopefully hitting funny along the way.

Similarly, there's no need to actually listen to a word anyone on a fucking Internet forum says to you.

ChattinWithChet

Now that's just disingenuous.

Diluted Dante

Whilst I thought Andy was being particularly Andy in the tech thread, I kind of agree that it's a bit much to expect him to know the condition of someone. I'd not been on the mental health thread in a good old while, and so I had no idea about any of this either.

Regardless of that though, as my introduction to her was as the funny lass who's about as good as me at Halo and not as a cleavage shot I didn't really even factor that into my opinion of her. I like her and hope she sticks around here and pops up for Halols.

[Deleted User]

Just caught up on the mental health thread.
Dante has just written my exact thoughts.

Stay strong turkey ham and Fenton.

google

ChattinWithChet wrote:

Now that's just disingenuous.

Its fucking true though. I don't disagree with your points, chet. My issue is with this thread and the running commentary.

ChattinWithChet

Ultimately Google, why be bothered by anything anybody says? We're human, this is a tight knit community and it is important to us. We are most of us friends. When someone is invited into the community, it is not as if we're some random internet comment generator. We know each other and this isn't the same thing as a Youtube commenter.

google

Agreed and point made.

Still don't like this thread.

Fentonizer

Why Google? Pretty much everyone else is feeling better and clearer now this is all out in the open. "Splitting the community" is a bit harsh.

I was very clear not to mention anyone by name (which would be hypocritical I should think) and when Andy reads all this I would hope that he doesn't read what I wrote as aÂ veiledÂ attack on him specifically, because it's certainly not.

[Deleted User]

Google.
You are my favourite person to argue with on here. I like you but when we disagree it feels like a proper, honorable duel.

Petey

Can we all go to bed now please?

Petey

After all appropriate make-up hugs have been dispensed, of course. In the case of Google, I think he needs someone to be big spoon tonight, just to put him at ease.