Funkstain wrote:

In our case, my wife is Slovak, with a huge family (multiple dozens compared to my ten or so), and we paid for family to come over and stay in Slovakia, but I gotta say that's the only excuse I can think of for a foreign wedding with expectations of high attendance: several of my friends couldn't make it, but there was no pressure from me, what are you gonna do? We had a small nice party when we got home for those who missed it and wanted to see us 

People have got shit to spend their money on and it isn't your highly regulated big day take 2

Yeah, mixed nationality weddings was the only exception I could think of to that - someone will always be losing out, but you accept that's going to be the case.

You have. But the advice then was sound, think it was gremill who mentioned similar thoughts about a foreign wedding but ended up having a brilliant time. As did Noxy possibly? Italy?

Anyway you’re going, so you have to suck it up and make the most of it:
- research a couple of cool locations to take Tilly to
- get her excited about a plane / being in Spain she’ll fucking love it
- see if there’s literally anything you’d want to do and carve out the time: a little restaurant, a particular beach, quirky museum, exploring a village or whatever. Your excuse: if you’re spending all this cash and time you’re going to make the most of it and someone needs entertain the kid whilst your wife attends to her highness’ needs

Predicto: you end up enjoying it and not massively regretting the spend

Just had a grumble about it to the wife and she suggested having a couple of days where we both moan about it as much as possible before just accepting it/looking forward to it/not going on about it. Then proceeded to list of a load of her own complaints she's been keeping quiet about. Including the fact that it's not a proper wedding (that's happening over here first and we're going to that too - I knew this apparently), and it's going to be in peak TOWIE territory (Magaluf).

No caravans, luxury living this time. Cheers Funk, I do remember this chat now. Poprock paid for his guests iirc.

Funkstain wrote:

You have. But the advice then was sound, think it was gremill who mentioned similar thoughts about a foreign wedding but ended up having a brilliant time.

Yeah, we went to Sicily for our very close friends wedding. There was no pressure for us to go though - but we wanted to because we'd missed out on an Italy holiday when COVID hit.

Moots circumstances sound shit though - I think the MiL has exactly the right response.

EasyJet sale on package holidays seems decent at the mo. Just booked a holiday for the first week of Easter break to Tenerife.

I with everyone else. Just say you can’t afford it. It's a really selfish thing to do unless your going to pay for your guests or suggest attendance is totally optional.

I'd be fuming.

They rearranged the date so we could go (Tilly has a school trip on the weekend they initially wanted, which briefly looked like a glorious get out for me). Nothing was booked at the time, so it was nothing more than a 'hey wait maybe we could just do it on this other random weekend ages away that's right next to it' kind of decision imo, but according to the wife this is what's locked us in.

I reckon the only thing that's locked in is the fact that if it rains that weekend instead of the one before we'll be getting silently cunted off whether we're there or not.

My wife's best mate and her bloke (and kid) are going too, and they've already booked it. Can't let them down really, would be pretty fucked up. She knows the bride pretty well but they definitely wouldn't be going if we weren't. I guarantee he doesn't want to go either.

It'shappening.unexcited.gif.

Maybe I'll hijack her carefully curated playlist and start playing Johnny Cash instead of Peter fucking Andre. Like the opposite of what happened at my wedding.

I feel for you, Moot.

One of my sister-in-laws got married overseas (not just ceremony, but actually married married).  When I first heard, I kicked off with wifey and we had a big argument.  But that's me, I like getting my point across

But SiL did put us up in a LOVELY hotel (or whatever it's called in Marrakech, a riyad?) with food etc - her hubby is loaded.  We just paid for cheapish flights in advance.  Plus we didn't buy a gift or give money.  All in all, we weren't out of pocket by much.  And had lots of fun out there, it was lovely.  So it can work out.

I got her to make a list of the top 5 reasons she's looking forward to it on the way home from school today. 1 was staying in a hotel, 2 was a hotel breakfast buffet. I kept my Travelodge comment to myself. She's been learning Spanish on Duolingo too.

And Korean. And German as of yesterday. So I'm not getting my hopes up for full fluency.

yourfavouriteuncle wrote:

The Moots are going to Magaluf!

We stayed here. Was grand. Great location too.

https://www.discoverasr.com/en/the-crest-collection/france/la-clef-louvre-paris?utm_source=google&utm_medium=gmb&utm_campaign=LaClefLouvreParisbyTheCrestCollection&y_source=1_NTg1OTcwNzQtNzE1LWxvY2F0aW9uLndlYnNpdGU=

yourfavouriteuncle wrote:

We stayed here. Was grand. Great location too. https://www.discoverasr.com/en/the-crest-collection/france/la-clef-louvre-paris?utm_source=google&utm_medium=gmb&utm_campaign=LaClefLouvreParisbyTheCrestCollection&y_source=1_NTg1OTcwNzQtNzE1LWxvY2F0aW9uLndlYnNpdGU=

Not quite a grand a night actually. but not far off