nick_md wrote:Surely she meant gender not sex, I think the operation is still referred to as SRS, sexual reassignment surgery. Sounds like just a brain fart but yeah, would need to see more of the interview.
Funkstain wrote:I always try and figure out what interest these people have in telling people how to live their lives, and dismiss people’s views as “woke” or SJWs or snowflakes or apache helicopters and I always always conclude they are cunts
Funkstain wrote:I was ranting about the state of public discourse on the matter which is mostly a vile joke
mistercrayon wrote:the problem is different people want to live their lives differently in the same space and neither group is the er “normal” one. The other problem is that it is an already historically oppressed class (women) that seem to have their right taken away in the quest for facile progressiveness (even the ability to say “ffuck this shit” without so much as an argument but rote ideology). It seems casually easy to trample on a class of people who have had to fight to get equal rights to men for over a hundred years. It seems to me women have entered this weird space that they are not majority enough to get implicitly equal treatment in society to men but are majority enough to have any rights they’ve earned to be traded as sacrificial.
0:17:43 SC: Yeah. And I like your definition because it highlights the extent to which the identity is not simply from within ourselves, it’s so shaped by how we interact with the rest of the world and how they interact with us. In fact, sometimes identities are sort of forged by common enemies in some way.
0:18:00 KA: Yes, yes. I mean, Charles Taylor says that they’re dialogical. I like that word because if you’re… Part of what that means is that if you’re going to change them or shift them around, you’ve got to get everybody on board. And it may be that you might have a view that the insider’s views about how things, how a certain identity should work, should be given extra weight, but in general identity is a part of a system of identities. And so, everybody has a stake in it. You can’t change what it means to be a woman and just leave what it is to be a man completely free-floatingly independently intact.
0:18:37 SC: When you draw a boundary, it separates two things.
0:18:39 KA: Yes, it separates two things. And so, the agreements about where the boundary lies are obviously required, as it were, the consent of all parties or at least they’re only going to be settled if you can get the consent of all parties. And certainly the meanings of these things. There are socially available meanings when, you know, if you’re a parent and you have a male child and a female child, the way in which their gender identities are available to them is going to depend on more than just what you think and more than what they come to think, it’s going to depend on how people in the world think about those things and different people in the world may think differently. It’s very much a matter, I think of it is as something that inevitably involves negotiation and perhaps compromise because a change in the system that is very good for some people maybe, may actually take something away from other people.
0:19:35 KA: Now, it may be, as in the case of the changes in the gender system produced by the kind of feminism that goes back to John Stuart Mill and Mary Wollstonecraft, those changes took away some things, some privileges from men, and a jolly good thing too. I mean, so sometimes what’s taken away from people they weren’t entitled to, but still, they lost something. And so you had to, to make it really work, you had to get them on board. And I think this is something that I feel is a little bit missing in the discussions about trans issues is the recognition that it is an issue for cis people as well as trans people. And that though the system needs to be changed in ways that will allow trans people better lives, they can’t do it without bringing the rest of us along. And that means they have to make arguments, they can’t just declare things, and they have to help us understand what it is they want, not just be annoyed with us for not understanding it, and so on.
0:20:40 KA: Now, I mean, I agree with the main thrust of what they’re up to, but I think sometimes people behave as if the resistance that comes to what they want is… It may be unreasonable, but it’s not… It comes from a place of people genuinely having a stake in the cis-trans system. And therefore, having I think the right to participate in trying to understand what’s going on.
0:21:03 SC: Well, and this is one of the issues that inevitably comes up when one such group, one such identity, has been historically discriminated against. There are things that they want and they’re a little bit impatient. And one can forgive them for being impatient, right?
0:21:19 KA: No, no. They should be in a hurry.
0:21:19 SC: Maybe they don’t want to sit and listen to detailed arguments one way or the other, or even, let me put it even more strongly than that. They can see what one person sees as a dispassionate philosophical argument one way or the other as an attack on who they are.
0:21:34 KA: Yes, and they do, and it may be. But what I was arguing, I suppose, is that you can’t always get what you want.
0:21:47 SC: Yeah, no, I agree, yeah.
0:21:48 KA: And that you have to… Look, it’s a very interesting thing how… I think young people, people in their teens and 20s today may have a hard time understanding why lesbian and gay people in the ’50s and ’60s, and maybe before, were not just mad at their families, and not just angry with them all the time. And kind of saying, “Take it or leave it. This is who I am.” But that is what happened. People negotiated with their families and when their families reacted badly to coming out, they didn’t stomp out of the room and leave. They stuck around and patiently… Well, this is a sort of an average story. There are lots of stories away from the mode. But I think, what works, it turns out, isn’t insisting immediately on getting your rights, even though they are your rights. What works is a little bit of patience and working with people to get them to see what is… What may be difficult for them to see because… And is too easy perhaps for you to see because you are living it. You’re living a trans identity and…
0:23:17 SC: It’s clear to you.
0:23:18 KA: It’s clear to you what’s going on. I think another thing to be said is that the negotiation isn’t just with cis people. It’s not as if all trans people have the same views about everything…
0:23:29 SC: They’re not, right. Or all…
0:23:29 KA: Just any more than gay people or black or white people or anybody, Catholics. People have disagreements within the tribe. And again, you can declare somebody to be doing the wrong thing as far as the tribe goes, but that isn’t the way of persuading anybody, simply stipulating that they’re misbehaving and that black people shouldn’t do that or gay people shouldn’t do that or whatever, or that you’re letting down the tribe. So I think that the… Dialogical is a good word, Charles says. If we see them as a dialogue with other people, and if we see that everybody has a stake in it, even if the stakes are much bigger for some people than others, still everybody has a stake because it’s a system of identities and the meaning of the identities, like all meanings, is a common possession, like the meanings of words. ...
Armitage_Shankburn wrote:Biological women want their own spaces. They are mistrustful of men. They have grown up being hit, deceived, tricked and all sorts of stuff. None of this is trans people's fault. It's men's. It's shocking so many men are eager to call these lifelong egalitarians transphobes, while they live the life of Riley, getting their dick out at the urinal, not a care in the world. All this debate needs is some empathy, not joining camps or worse, voyeurism.
Funkstain wrote:… those who wade into this debate from an entirely unempathetic, "women are women and men are men what's this weird millennial bullshit" stance which is massively common …
So on the nail it broke the hammer.Armitage_Shankburn wrote:Biological women want their own spaces. They are mistrustful of men. They have grown up being hit, deceived, tricked and all sorts of stuff. None of this is trans people's fault. It's men's. It's shocking so many men are eager to call these lifelong egalitarians transphobes, while they live the life of Riley, getting their dick out at the urinal, not a care in the world. All this debate needs is some empathy, not joining camps or worse, voyeurism.
Diluted Dante wrote:The thing, is, requiring people to use the toilets that match their birth sex means that you are forcing transmen in to womens toilets. What do you think is more likely, a cis man legally changing gender to access womens toilets, or a cis man just saying he is a trans man to access womens toilets? How comfortable would women be with someone with a big bushy beard being in the womens bogs?
poprock wrote:Funkstain wrote:… those who wade into this debate from an entirely unempathetic, "women are women and men are men what's this weird millennial bullshit" stance which is massively common …
If people were to be honest about their opinions on this, I think UK surveys could draw up an interesting venn diagram showing crossover between that anti-trans stance, anti-immigration stances, performative jingoism, brexit voting, Johnson supporting, and all of the other things that are wrong with this country.
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Funkstain wrote:Armitage_Shankburn wrote:Biological women want their own spaces. They are mistrustful of men. They have grown up being hit, deceived, tricked and all sorts of stuff. None of this is trans people's fault. It's men's. It's shocking so many men are eager to call these lifelong egalitarians transphobes, while they live the life of Riley, getting their dick out at the urinal, not a care in the world. All this debate needs is some empathy, not joining camps or worse, voyeurism.
I agree with this - and I'm really not sure how I can add to the debate, really, since my stakes are very low. I just want people to get along, man
My beef is with those who wade into this debate from an entirely unempathetic, "women are women and men are men what's this weird millennial bullshit" stance which is massively common, and has nefariously co-opted parts of the debate which object to / have reservations about trans folk moving into territory previously reserved for cis folk (and also blundered into the contentious areas of adolescent / pre-adult transitioning options)
mistercrayon wrote:This kind of oppositional “I am good because I have good opinions and therefore everyone is a baddie because they have the bad opinions” is in part why we are in a lot of this mess.
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