Funkstain wrote:Yes sports is another problematic issue. I do believe there are solutions for these issues, which will invariably require compromise from interested parties ("loss of power" to use the parlance of Gurt's transcript), and the only way to make opponents compromise in a negotiation, is to (again paraphrasing from transcript) explain, offer, and persuade. Stridently affirming "wrongness" (transphobia, gammon) won't get you anywhere. Arguably with some (gammon) you wouldn't anyway, so fuck em. But trans rights (and as importantly, trans acceptance) is an achievable thing and so should be pursued, thoughtfully and inclusively.
Diluted Dante wrote:You thought I meant they physically did not exist?
Diluted Dante wrote:How do you know I am either straight or a man Gonz?
Diluted Dante wrote:How do you know I am either straight or a man Gonz?
Diluted Dante wrote:I'm not referring to accidental misgendering. That's absolutely fine. Anyone remotely sensible will from then on use the correct name and pronouns. It's the likes of Ben Shapiro I'm referring to who insist on using what he refers to as 'biological pronouns'. Its not just conservative dickwads who do this though. It's very common with 'gender critical' people.
If you want to understand where I'm coming from, http://theconversation.com/denying-transgender-identity-has-serious-impact-on-mental-health-108152 may help.
For the record, I'm still figuring out what I am. All I can tell you is that its not cisgender.
Andy wrote:With apologies to Gonzo and Dante if I’m misreading either of your posts.
While I agree that gender is a societal construct, and a large part of the problem is that our language has developed to only accommodate two distinct possibilities, I also recognise that if you identify as something that is ill-served by current widely accepted labels, and there are people making rigid statements about ovaries, for example, then it might feel like people are denying that you exist. Not denying that you physically occupy space, obviously, but denying that your identity exists, or should even be acknowledged. That would feel to me like (and I would likely express that feeling as) someone ‘denying my existence’.
GooberTheHat wrote:Language isn't always used to convey the literal meaning of the word. When you're talking about something as intangible as the sense of self I think it's reasonable to expect that to be the case.
Funkstain wrote:...first by identifying the true extent of the problem (are obviously-cis men really trying to invade women's spaces by pretending to be trans women?
Armitage_Shankburn wrote:I call someone she. They're a he. How am I denying their existence? Every single post has avoided answering this question.
Armitage_Shankburn wrote:GooberTheHat wrote:Language isn't always used to convey the literal meaning of the word. When you're talking about something as intangible as the sense of self I think it's reasonable to expect that to be the case.
Who said anything about literal? I just said ordinary meaning. Here we go - another tell in choice of word.
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I call someone she. They're a he. How am I denying their existence? Every single post has avoided answering this question. This is the kind of ridiculous emotional hyperbole that pervades this kind of issue. No answer.
Of course, I call someone the wrong gender, I do acknowledge their existence. I assign, however, an unwelcome social identity to them. That's the key to analysing this issue. There is a social debate over what it means to be a woman, and in what contexts. It is mostly assertions on both side. "Trans women are women" full stop. A stake is planted. "Women don't have dicks". Stake removed, another planted. No one has learnt a fucking thing.
"Women is a made up word, which describes a societal status frequently aligned with, but not exclusively determined by sex. It's called gender. Language refers to people in a gendered way. Its not skin off your nose to use the preferred gender" - here we made some progress.
"It is skin off your nose that you now can't compete in your sport because someone who has a sex-based advantage, current or historical, will always outperform you" there we made some more progress.
'but they deny my existence" - fuck all progress.
Can't put it any plainer than that.
GooberTheHat wrote:There is a massive philosophical rabbit hole to go down here.
Funkstain wrote:And it's not particularly useful.
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Andy wrote:Armitage_Shankburn wrote:I call someone she. They're a he. How am I denying their existence? Every single post has avoided answering this question.
Because you’re missing the point. We’ve explained what leads to people using that phrase, it’s up to you if you want to take that on board.
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