The problem is that because there hasn't been a system of inclusiveness or fairness, bringing it up now, when someone's just been 'nominated' for this thing can't help but feel unfair and exclusive. Not that I want to moan or generate pity, but maybe you want to consider the impact of your good intentions as well.legaldinho wrote:No dig at Jon was intended. It's just, we raise money, self congratulate, but there is no system for inclusiveness or fairness. It means that the quieter people who are struggling financially watch this and are, well, bitter and disillusioned. Or think they aren't liked. The road to hell is paved with good intentions and all that.
Gonz, I'd be more than happy to paypal your score back or make a charitable donation somewhere of your choice, let me know.Lord_Griff wrote:It's fucking simple. Someone needs assistance, an individual asks if anyone wants to help. Help is provided. If the recipient doesn't want help or funds raised are excessive (determined by contributors) then contributors vote on what happens collectively (UK trustee rules).
JonB wrote:The problem is that because there hasn't been a system of inclusiveness or fairness, bringing it up now, when someone's just been 'nominated' for this thing can't help but feel unfair and exclusive. Not that I want to moan or generate pity, but maybe you want to consider the impact of your good intentions as well.legaldinho wrote:No dig at Jon was intended. It's just, we raise money, self congratulate, but there is no system for inclusiveness or fairness. It means that the quieter people who are struggling financially watch this and are, well, bitter and disillusioned. Or think they aren't liked. The road to hell is paved with good intentions and all that.
To put it in perspective, I was originally in two minds about the whole buy someone a console thing for the same reason. It generally just took one person to mention it and that was that, regardless of who the recipient was. I wondered whether it was fair, or whether the inevitable extra money that was collected might have gone to someone else, rather than to get extra games/peripherals.
But I always also thought it was just a really nice thing to do, and it was great that someone who couldn't afford something suddenly got this great surprise, and in fact ended up with a really great package of console + games etc. And the more times it happened the more I found myself leaning towards this interpretation - just pleased for the person receiving, without any bitterness, disillusionment or sense that it reflected badly on my status on the forum in any way.
So, what I want to say is that everyone should buy me a Switch and all the games. No, just kidding. What I want to say is that, even though I absolutely do not want you guys to buy me a Switch, I feel like this really nice thing that people do here has been poisoned now. I guess no one will feel comfortable suggesting that someone should be bought a console anymore, which I think is a bit shit. There are of course more important causes, and even I've donated small amounts to those, but I think those should be considered separately from these other drives which are more for fun, and I hope the latter can continue in some way.
fullspectrum wrote:I've caught up with everything and I now feel quite shit.
Gonz, let me try to explain.
The issue seems to be that once we were over target for Dan's ticket, that I didn't then start planning to pay for Swirl to come to London. I have no PMs about driving donations for that, so I'm not sure what you're referencing there, but in the thread I had addressed his interest in coming by unfortunately saying there was no room to stay at my tiny flat where I already had Dan. I did not ignore it, but hoped for the best that he was going to be able to attend. That felt like the most I could do. To me, starting another donation drive during the one I was nervously trying to make good on was outside the scope of what had started to come together.
That scope, having started the whole thing with no real plan, had begun growing. I felt that by promising things like good-quality food on arrival, some drinks, and BBQ sauce to take home, that it was becoming a better value thing to spend money on. Side note, @spacegazelle, I still owe you a sauce, I am sorry for the delay.
For the record, having gone over the numbers this morning, I spent the extra ~£80 on making that BBQ sauce, the food I spent ages sourcing and cooking and providing decent booze for those that came to my house first. Probably a bit more than that, considering where I shopped for the stuff. The point is to then take that stuff away from people would have been rum as fuck. Quick shout to the resurgence of the word rum on this fo-rum btw, that's my only positive of all this.
Looking at it now, 2.5 years later, I think if I had had more of a sense that my approach at the time was alienating people (or maybe just person, I dunno), I'd have rather just put out some lunchables, a couple of carrot sticks, some mighty-white dippers, a juicebox or two and spent the rest on Swirly's ticket. Sounds like I'm being silly but I do take the point that not everyone contributing cared about what type of provisions were being provided to those that came to my house.
In essence, I'd support what Griff is saying here:
Gonz, I'd be more than happy to paypal your score back or make a charitable donation somewhere of your choice, let me know.Lord_Griff wrote:It's fucking simple. Someone needs assistance, an individual asks if anyone wants to help. Help is provided. If the recipient doesn't want help or funds raised are excessive (determined by contributors) then contributors vote on what happens collectively (UK trustee rules).
The same goes for anyone else that might have been feeling the same, I'm very open to criticism or feedback on how I went about things.
Thanks to those that have shown support.
I get that (although it's not clear whether anyone actually is being rubbed the wrong way), but you could've chosen a time in between funding drives to do it, so as not to leave someone caught in the middle.legaldinho wrote:All I wanted is to promote a discussion of an issue I know is rubbing people the wrong way.
I also think this is a very important point.poprock wrote:One thing that occurs to me is that financial aid during times of hardship and buying gifts for pals (consoles, games, etc) are two different things. Both are bloody beautiful things to do for a person, but they’re very different.
Lord_Griff wrote:As long as we all understand what we have here, and that everyone is a dick, and everyone can be misconstrued and the majority of all the friction here is down to Hanlon's Razor then we'll be alright. Also accept that nobody will ever buy Griff anything.
b0r1s wrote:Haven't I bought you a Pimms?
legaldinho wrote:Thanks, but I don't want that money back. I just want more sensitivity, going forward, to inclusiveness and non-cliqueyness. It's a difficult issue: do we make it really awesome for X, or do we spread the joy a bit. At the time, you and Dan were right, you chose the former. I chose that as an example because I think now, Dan might rightly be aggrieved that we raised money for tempy but not him. And doubly so if the follow up on that is to get someone a console. Anyway, that is the end of that for me.I've caught up with everything and I now feel quite shit. Gonz, let me try to explain. The issue seems to be that once we were over target for Dan's ticket, that I didn't then start planning to pay for Swirl to come to London. I have no PMs about driving donations for that, so I'm not sure what you're referencing there, but in the thread I had addressed his interest in coming by unfortunately saying there was no room to stay at my tiny flat where I already had Dan. I did not ignore it, but hoped for the best that he was going to be able to attend. That felt like the most I could do. To me, starting another donation drive during the one I was nervously trying to make good on was outside the scope of what had started to come together. That scope, having started the whole thing with no real plan, had begun growing. I felt that by promising things like good-quality food on arrival, some drinks, and BBQ sauce to take home, that it was becoming a better value thing to spend money on. Side note, @spacegazelle, I still owe you a sauce, I am sorry for the delay. For the record, having gone over the numbers this morning, I spent the extra ~£80 on making that BBQ sauce, the food I spent ages sourcing and cooking and providing decent booze for those that came to my house first. Probably a bit more than that, considering where I shopped for the stuff. The point is to then take that stuff away from people would have been rum as fuck. Quick shout to the resurgence of the word rum on this fo-rum btw, that's my only positive of all this. Looking at it now, 2.5 years later, I think if I had had more of a sense that my approach at the time was alienating people (or maybe just person, I dunno), I'd have rather just put out some lunchables, a couple of carrot sticks, some mighty-white dippers, a juicebox or two and spent the rest on Swirly's ticket. Sounds like I'm being silly but I do take the point that not everyone contributing cared about what type of provisions were being provided to those that came to my house. In essence, I'd support what Griff is saying here:Gonz, I'd be more than happy to paypal your score back or make a charitable donation somewhere of your choice, let me know. The same goes for anyone else that might have been feeling the same, I'm very open to criticism or feedback on how I went about things. Thanks to those that have shown support.It's fucking simple. Someone needs assistance, an individual asks if anyone wants to help. Help is provided. If the recipient doesn't want help or funds raised are excessive (determined by contributors) then contributors vote on what happens collectively (UK trustee rules).
It shall be soSkerret wrote:I suspect Gonzo is operating under the misapprehension that he is some kind of benevolent god, so if you're reading this Ozno wherever you are bless me with children to serve and obey me
Dark Soldier wrote:I've PMed Jon about the switch, I'll cover postage. Done, chill lads.
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